The Art of Surrendering

“A thing is not beautiful because it lasts”

The Vision

To surrender is not to relinquish all control or lose power over the situation. But rather, to surrender is to be in a state of serenity fully accepting that beyond the powers that be… you cannot control nor dominate but simply accept what is currently present within and without your reality. This is where great power can than be wielded within.

Most people spend their entire existence trying to come to a place of clarity on various parts of their lives. They will scour the earth in search of understanding or wisdom to the depths of their souls for purpose, emotional intelligence or abundance in its many forms. Yet very few people find this clarity. I think a large part of clarity is found through being in a state of surrendering. By being in this state of mind, you are almost in a state of observation without partiality or premise on what can or cannot be. Through this comes clarity and within that… is the beauty or essence of life itself.

So how do you get there? I know, I know… it’s not like you can just clean the window and see more clear. It’s obviously more profound than this! But yet is far more simple than most realize it to be. In moments where there is an utter lack of clarity present in whatever part of life your in.. the very first step is to acknowledge it. Acknowledge that you are in that state of “lack of clarity”. Acknowledgment is a very powerful state of being because once you acknowledge something there is no going back under that rock of confusion or denial or misguided temptations. Yes you could acknowledge and then try to numb yourself. In fact, this is what most do. They make acknowledgments of their reality but than begin to make excuses for this behavior while pushing the blame or deadline to another day. This is where blockages begin to occur and there is almost an essence of desperation that can consume someone that begins to ignore what they have already set out to acknowledge.

ACKNOWLEDGE YOUR CURRENT LACK OF CLARITY

Next, feel into the emotions surrounding this acknowledgment. I’m not saying go and spend weeks and hours contemplating your very existence and allowing yourself to be absolutely consumed by your emotions. I’m more so referring to the more observational side of your mind. Observe your feelings… by observing and feeling into how you feel about this lack of clarity, you begin to understand yourself and the current state of being you are at. Yet there is an art to this…. Spend too much time on this and you will become consumed in the story of your lack of clarity rather than observing what you are feeling. This is how people start to begin to think in terms of being restricted or tethered down by an obstacle with no way out but that one option. When in reality they actually have many options out of that obstacle. List the emotions. Ask questions like: what am I currently feeling about this? What do those feelings make me feel within my body? Once a clear assessment has been made regarding this, than feeling into the emotions can occur almost simultaneously. Allow yourself some time to feel the grief of acknowledging that you just don’t have that clarity you seek!

FEEL INTO YOUR FEELINGS REGARDING THIS.

Once you have acknowledged and then felt into those emotions. Than you can begin the process of a deep validation of your reality and then comes deep radical acceptance meaning you are in a state of total understanding of your reality and that it will absolutely shift and change. Validating this can be hard for most. If it were easy than none of us would be seeking validation in others at some points of our lives. Ask yourself: What am I saying about this situation? What kind of clarity am I truly seeking? Where is the pain of lack of clarity manifesting itself within my body? Once you have determined this. Sit with these questions, observe your answers take note of them. Ask yourself: What is the sentence, words or phrase that will release me from this lack of clarity? Hold that phrase in your minds eye.

VALIDATE YOUR FEELINGS AND EMOTIONS THAT HAVE MANIFESTED.

With that phrase clearly in your mind. Begin breathing in deeply, out deeply. Sit up straight or lie down straight. As you begin exhaling allow your breathing to slow. The more slowly you begin to breathe it will begin to activate your vagus nerve. This vagus nerve is a way to release energy. Say that phrase as many times as you need to silently through your breathing. As you do this you will begin to notice it invokes yawning. This is a powerful way of release. When you are done you will feeI in a more calmer state.

ACTIVATE YOUR VAGUS NERVE TO RELEASE THE ENERGY.

Give yourself permission to not have full clarity. There will be so many times in your life that you do not have all the answers and you could choose to spend that time in a state of fear or in a state of love. You deserve love!